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6 Most Common Back Handed Compliments

I read a few articles pointing fingers at Barbie for the cause of eating disorders, and Matel is being sued. I know it can’t solely be Matel’s fault,  so I did some research on how eating disorders really get started and it’s pretty interesting.

“There is no single cause for eating disorders. Although concerns about weight and body shape play a role in all eating disorders, the actual cause of these disorders appear to result from many factors, including cultural and family pressures and emotional and personality disorders. Genetics and biologic factors may also play a role.”- University of Maryland

Cultural & family pressures plays a huge role in the cause of eating disorders 

I lived in Hong Kong till I was a teenager and without a doubt it is an amazing city. Its superior sense of trend, food you crave and glorious scenery will definitely make you want to visit over and over again. However the longer I was there, I notice something. I noticed many of the locals’ conversation starters were a bit offensive in my opinion, and it could be one of the main causes of eating disorders, stress and high suicide rates in Asia. Here are some examples:

  • “Long time no see! You’ve gone fatter 🙂 “
  • “Nice bag 😀 ! Is that fake? It looks fake 😀 “
  • “So skinny 😀 ! You’re husband doesn’t feed you? :D”
  • “It’s been a long time! *Hug* You look so much older! Look at all them fish-tail lines next to your eyes :D”
  • “Waaa! You must be making lots of money! Look how fat you are :D”
  • “Looking good, but I think my son is much taller than you :D”

I love Hong Kong and would love to stay, but it’s these back handed, unexpected insult-greets that I can never get used to. It’s messed up and it’s annoying after a while.

Growing up is as stressful as it is. We shouldn’t  make it even harder.

I want people to be able to have the same opportunity to live in a more positive environment! I want this silly culture to stop. I want us to appreciate ourselves more and eliminate the insecurities we have within.

I need your help to spread the positive energy. I started to give 1 compliment a day. Find something good within a person you encounter, and appreciate them by a compliment 🙂 A little good goes a long way.  Thank you so much for reading, and together we can make a difference. May no one have to suffer anymore ♥

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Posted by on June 23, 2011 in Blog


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Inception is quite possible

First I’m going to tell you my dream.

My dream started at a old Chinese flat. I’m not really sure where I was, but the environment really reminds me of Hong Kong. Checkered floors, brown walls… kinda like the HK 70’s.

The dream started like this, this is where everyone was standing.

The floor

My grandma was sitting inside a bathtub full of water, with my auntie next to her. And my mom… she was in a cardboard made oven, with her toes towards me.

Grandma said: Close the door on her(My mom), it’s time. You have to do this.

But I know as soon as I shut the door, then the fire will turn on…

Me: But why grandma? Why? This is a mistake!

Grandma:” You just have to listen to us, it’s time!!” She exclaims while my auntie nodding and bathing grandma.

I was in such dilemma.. such agony.. such painful decision.. then I hear my mom say.. “Baby.. baby ? Mommy’s really scared.. I don’t want to watch myself burn, can you please close the door? Please, baby?”

“But I don’t want to.. momma I can’t”

“I really don’t want to watch myself burn baby, please close the door?”

I don’t know what on earth made me, but I closed the metal oven door *Click*.. I hear my mom saying “I love you baby… I love you so much..”

Me yelling back MOMMY!!!!!!……I love you forever mommy.. mommy!! I love you!!”

I went back to the room next door,

“I did it… *sniff sniff..*, I shut the door…”

“Why would you do that? How could you? We never said that!!! WHAT’S WRONG WITH YOU?” Both yelling at me..

Then I woke up…

I woke up in tears with a broken heart, pain on my chest and guilt that I couldn’t bare.

I called her as soon as I woke up, thank goodness she’s ok.

It’s been 3 days now since the nightmare… and yet I still tear up when I talk about closing the oven door on my mom…

Just a thought, if we had the machines like the ones in the movie, Inception, people can really change the way other people think of- Anything

Like :

•Make a person believe you’re the girl/man of his/her dreams (All them dating sites can shut down!!)

•Getting people to quit drugs (So they can see and feel the painful future)

•Create less bitchy person (Hallelujah! We finally don’t have to kill our boss!)

What are your ways to change the world if you have the technology like that?

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Posted by on February 15, 2011 in Blog


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